One Day There Won’t Be Any More Roses To Smell

Start planting your rose garden today.

As we are getting ready for Spring of 2019 here in the southern hemisphere, the days are getting longer and it’s getting warmer. What better cue to sit back, reflect and take stock of just how far you’ve come during the last 8 months since the beginning of 2019.

Are you better or worse off then you were this time last year? Maybe it’s time to ask yourself some hard questions and expect hard answers. Those promises that you made to yourself, that no-one knows about, that no-one will ever know whether they were kept or broken. Only you know. Which makes it so much more painful. Because let’s face it, the easier way out always seems like the better option.

We live in the now, we want to absorb, and experience the instant gratification of everything around us. Yes, you plan to get to the hard work, but just not now. You plan to have that talk with yourself, just not today. You will stop eating sugar, just not today. You will start exercising, just not today.

Unfortunately, time doesn’t stand still and it won’t wait for you. Before you know it another year has passed. You promised yourself when the kids are older, when the car is paid off, when you get that promotion. The timing will never be right.

When you get to the supermarket and you see the 60-year old cashier smiling and tallying up your goods. You say a quick prayer, to never end up like her. Well, she also had dreams. She also waited for the right moment. She also said when the kids are older. Before you know it, it will be too late.

They say wake up and smell the roses. One day there may not be any more roses to smell. And all you have is yourself to blame. Don’t let anyone hold you back. We are influenced so heavily by those close to us. They want to talk you out of it. They say it will never work. What about your safety net?

After enough naysaying and a few drinks, you think to yourself that you don’t have it that bad after all and it would be easier to stick with what you know. Until another year has passed. Your dreams are not theirs. You are the only one uncomfortable with your situation because you know that you can achieve so much more if you can just stop listening to those voices in your head and outside. It’s your dream. It’s your path. No-one else can walk it for you.

You can continue to curl up and remain complacent. The time for sowing will come and go and shit, since you didn’t plant those roses when it was planting season, there will be no roses to smell. Your garden will remain the sand and stone that you have refused to work and till.

It’s not too late. Start today. Start where you are, with what you have. Just start.

Michelle, Who Are You?

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I don’t know.

The people who follow me on social media for a while now will see that my bio has changed from fashion designer to writer, to Administrative Consultant (whatever that means), and now recently back to fashion designer. All this while holding down a full-time job and raising 2 boys in a rather, chaotic but happy household (until the goldfish dies). I’ve lost count on how many we’ve bought and buried.

As some of you may also know, the first time I started out as a fashion designer nearly 6 years ago, there was the honeymoon phase and then the divorce. It went well, while it lasted and then the break-up (aarrgghh sobs). If anyone cares to enlighten themselves on the details, here goes — What a failed business venture taught me.

Back to today. I just don’t think it’s time to settle yet. The thing I’m most afraid of is settling and worse, settling without realising that you’ve settled. 
I visited a local farmers market for fresh produce recently and I was amazed that the chocolatier standing there, nonchalantly whipping up decadent pieces of sunshine that will take me a full month to work off at the gym.

It looks like he’s been doing it for years. He looked so at home behind the stand and with what he does for a living. Why can’t it be so easy for all of us!

I don’t feel like I fit in anywhere.

I know there are designers better than me. I know there are writers better than me. What stops someone from buying from a big retailer at unbeatable prices, then buying one of my pieces or reading my work.

Well, they’ll get a piece of me. The most exhilarating feeling is creating something and someone picks it up and owns it. Like it’s been their missing half all along. I love the interaction with my customers. I love their feedback. I love being the face of my brand. A yet unknown, minute operation that may one day climb into the hearts of hopefully a few people. Just a few.

When starting a business, we want everything to be perfect. The business plan, the offices, the receptionist, the wooden flooring, but we forget the most important thing. The customer. Without the customer, none of these things matter. Is someone willing to exchange their hard-earned cash for your goods? You only need to convince a few people, just like 0.00001% of 7 billion. One thousand true fans they say.

Make sure you can count on at least one. Not your mom, or your grandma who will gladly exchange their birthrights to see you succeed.

It’s an uncomfortable place to be in. This uncertainty, the fear of the unknown. The fear of another failure that may knock you down and out for months.

Yet, it’s a beautiful process.

When you are present throughout you learn so many things, you grow as a person, you have new experiences. You absorb and grow into your new skin. You can never go back to your old self again. He/she doesn’t exist anymore, except as a distant memory.

It’s easier to want to do it the textbook way. They way they taught you. That’s ok, just don’t forget you in the process. Whether success or failure, you will be a better person in the end, guaranteed.

Theodore Roosevelt said: 
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

Beauty Is In The Moment

Practice mindfulness and stay present

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When it feels like your life is spinning out of control and someone else (not you) is in the driving seat.

It happens to all of us. All too often. You think to yourself, how did I get here? Again? I said this won’t happen again. I’ve made up my mind that I’m done with this loser lifestyle of drinking, partying, spending money (I don’t have), racking up debt on my credit card.
The weekend is gone and although I entered for the 10 km race, I didn’t make it to the starting line on Saturday morning. It was Heather’s birthday party on Friday night, how could I miss it? She asked me 3 times if I’ll be there. Or maybe it was the free drinks.

It’s funny how life happens and spins out of control without us knowing or having a say. Well, it’s usually too late to say anything.

Enough of the sob stories. Whose life is this? Mine, of course. Well, start acting like someone who’s serious about change.

Let’s do this together.

Here are just a few things that you can do right, the next time.

• Since today is gone, it’s 21h30 where I am, I’ve set my alarm for 05h30. I plan to wake up when my alarm goes off (without hitting the snooze button) and get my ass to the gym.

• Next, I’m planning my schedule for tomorrow. I’ve made notes of everything I would like to get done, with the 2 most important tasks set for the morning.

• My phone will be on flight mode and all notifications will be de-activated as I spend uninterrupted time on my most important project.

• I’ve taken out some of the ingredients that I will need to prepare my lunch that I’ll take to work.

By writing down what needs to be done and actively planning your day, you are more inclined to get at least part or hopefully about 80% done. There will always be interruptions, impromptu meetings, and phone calls that can take up a lot of your time and tend to throw you off course.

If you just try and stick to your goal of doing the next thing right, you will hopefully already be half-way through in case any hell breaks loose.

Try this at home with your partner and kids as well. Things tend to unravel quickly when you have little people running around yelling and screaming as if they own you. They need to be fed, clothed, but most importantly loved.

Keep a level head. If you can, in the midst of the commotion, remember what you told yourself, how you will handle that particular situation with your boss, your co-worker, your 3-year-old, or 30 year old all vying for your attention and wanting to throw you off course. 
Life is beautiful. You are right where you need to be. The universe is on your side even though it doesn’t always feel like it. Stay present. Stay calm.

Your situation is unique. You are on the right path. Just breathe.
Don’t wish this time away. Time passes so quickly. In another 6 months or 1 year, this won’t matter anymore.

If you can stay present and learn from everything and everyone on your path, you will be the winner. You will live a rich and fulfilling life.

Just choose to stay present. You can.

Juggling Balls

Giving your children all the love and attention they deserve in these busier than ever times.

After some whining from my kids, I decided to take them from school a few days a week, instead of them going in the school bus. This was after numerous complaints from them that I am not picking them up, “but Adam’s mom comes every day.”

I thought I will go during my lunch break. I hardly ever go out for lunch. I usually just eat my packed lunch at my desk. Anyway, I took off at 13h00, it takes me about 15 mins to get to school and I only need to be there at 13h30. I had lots of time.

Driving out of the gate at my office I saw lots of cars on the road and thought everyone must be going out for lunch, which is ok, we all need a break. I caught the green light once or twice, so great I thought. I can do this. Just around the corner and about 10 mins from school, to my dismay, we went bumper to bumper.

I couldn’t even see ahead to check what’s going on. It must be all these grannies on the road going nowhere slowly! As we inch forward in 30 degrees heat I thought of all the messages I’ll get when I am back at the office. Everyone is going to be looking for me. I had 5 missed calls on my cell phone already.

So much for trying to keep everyone happy. We get closer to the intersection and I see workmen ahead. A big truck is blocking the road. They are painting the road markings. Great, we need that, but do they have to do this now? I’m gonna be late!

I make it to school, it’s 13h45. I need to be back at the office by 14h00. I look for my boys but can’t find them. I check in the classrooms, on the soccer field, in the bathroom. Nobody.

I get in the car to drive to Aftercare which is across the road at the other campus. I could walk, but not now! No, they are not here today said Mrs Brown. I go into a slight panic, am trying to hold it together. I get an incoming call. It’s Shaun the bus driver.

What could this be about? Shaun said he was in front of our gate, can I please open the gate. I said, “Shaun, I sent a message this morning to say that you don’t have to collect the boys today and that I will come and fetch them. Shaun said, “Yes Madam I got the message, but when I saw the boys at Aftercare I thought you forgot so I decided to take them.” I said, “Thank you Shaun. No problem. See you tomorrow.”

I called my husband to tell him what happened. He stopped me in mid-sentence. “Mich, I’m in a meeting, is it important?” “No my darling, it’s not. Don’t worry. Let’s talk later.” I drove back to the office thinking of everything I could have done instead of working myself up in traffic, trying to be a model wife, mother and worker.

Yeah, I would also like to play golf all day, collect my kids, then sit at the clubhouse drinking martinis. One day when I’m big. As I write this my little one is following me around. I usually do it when they are asleep. Why are you following me around boy, I asked. Go and build your Lego. “No mommy, I wanna be with you!”

You just can’t win. 🙂

A Year From Now You Will Wish You Started Today

Take back control of your life.

Now and then. The present and the past. Depending on which side of the hemisphere you are on, you are either preparing for winter or for summer.

You are either looking forward or you are dreading the sweltering heat or the cold and snow. Or you could be close to the equator, where you experience neither.

Let’s take stock, are you better or worse off than you were last year this time? How have you fared in your relationships, at work, in your business, your finances?

The art of living is to constantly improve and become better than you were yesterday. It should be a natural progression.

Sometimes things happen that is beyond our control like an unexpected illness, losing your job, going through a breakup or divorce. This sets you back.

You feel stressed out and sorry for yourself. It doesn’t have to be this way. Most times it is not the situation itself that is challenging, but our thoughts around it.

How do you deal with a difficult situation? For the longest time, all I wanted to do was run and hide. I don’t like confrontation.

Here are a few reasons why you should be happier today

1. You are still here

Some people didn’t make it. Appreciate that you are alive and well. Showing gratitude uplifts the spirit and you feel like you are bringing value.

2. 365 days wiser

Every day we learn and grow. Our experiences are our most valuable lessons. To be able to take any situation whether good or bad, take your feelings out of it and determine the lesson. There is always a lesson.

3. Family and friends matter

I know we sometimes think we can do without them, but your family is your family. You cannot choose them, but you can choose how you will be treated and how you will treat others.

4. You have something to do

Because our days are so rushed, we hardly ever stop to appreciate that we still have a job or that you are running your business. You get a paycheck at month end that you choose to spend as you like.

5. You have an opportunity to make better choices

You cannot change what happened last year, but you can begin immediately to make a better tomorrow. Change can only happen in the present moment, so stop dwelling on the past. Change is the only constant.

Have you smelled the roses today? Get up, go outside (like seriously, right now. I’ll wait) and look around. Take in everything you see that is good and that adds value. Find joy, actively search for it today and you will find it.

Others go out of their way to have a bad day. They want everyone to know. Steer clear! It’s better to be alone than in bad company.

If I look back at the person I was a year ago I can see that I’ve come a long way. I hope you have too. Think about it, a year from now it will even be better.

It is not too late, start today to write down your goals. Start actively pursuing those goals. Make it your mission to do better and become better.

It all starts with the realisation that something has to change. Don’t let your circumstances box you in. Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t. They are wrong. They look at you and silently wish that they had the guts to try too.

The great thing is, you don’t have to tell anyone about the positive changes in your life. They can see it. A new life awaits. All you have to do is nod your head and say, I’m in!

Love Is Not Love. Which Alters When It Alteration Finds said Shakespeare

Relationships are the foundation of a happy and fulfilled life. We can have all the money in the world, but without happy, healthy relationships we are kind of lost. Where, how do you ensure that your relationships are flourishing? When you are so excited, you can’t wait to get back to your loved ones. Marriage is a lot of work. When we say I do, you are in a state of pure bliss that feels like it’s never going to end. Wait till you get back from your honeymoon and you have to pick up wet towels from the bathroom floor and all his clothes are everywhere except in the washing basket.

Then you have your first child and nothing prepares you for the sleepless nights and constant near exhaustion. You are tired all the time and start wondering, how did I get here? It’s not fun anymore. Children eventually grow up and they bring you so much joy and it will all be worth it. Even though your partner makes you angry, hurt your feelings, just think back to the time when you first got together. What was it about him that attracted you in the first place? Sure, there was a lot of sexual chemistry, but that cannot be all. You’ll need a stronger foundation than that when things get rough. It’s easy when things are easy. It’s not so easy when things are hard. When you have a crying, colicky baby in your arms and he comes home from work, where he did not have to put up with the crying, colicky baby and he asks: “what’s for dinner?” You want to throw him with the crying, colicky baby. Anyway, why do you have to put up the crying, colicky baby alone? He is 50% of the reason why you have a crying colicky baby in your arms!

You wonder how your parents made it through. Things must have been easier back then. No, not really, it’s the mindset that was different. Yes, women were more dependent on their husbands back then, for their own and their children’s welfare. Now women earn more, they are more independent and can also wear the pants if they wanted to. But let him wear the pants. It will save you a lot of heartache. Men are wired to be the breadwinner and take care of the family. It’s great that you can contribute, but let him take the lead. We believe we have changed so much, but the fundamentals stay the same. You just have to look past all the noise and hype. It is no easy decision to decide that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. Let it not be an easy decision to call it quits and throw it all away. We women can be very stubborn and want to have the last word. You may win that fight, but at what cost? If he has said or done something you don’t like, that makes you upset, let him know, but leave it at that. Don’t get vindictive and bring up his past mistakes and failures. That’s what will drive him away. You must let go sometimes and trust the process. Trust that things will work out. That you both will get to that happy place again. The getting back takes time. You have to be patient. But like everything else that is worth persuing, it will be worth it.

Once you have children you owe it to them to try again and again and to not give up. Make a decision to stop fighting and work towards peace in your home. In the middle of a heated debate, take a deep breath, tell yourself that it’s not worth it. You’re not throwing in the towel. Just take out the pot and get dinner going. Actions speak louder than words. Watch, and wait and see who will want to cuddle tonight. Can you smell the victory? Girl, it’s all up to you.

$100 For Every Idea That You’ve Failed To Execute

$200 if I come back next week and your status remains unchanged.

They say the wealthiest place on earth is the graveyard. What about the gold mines that are inside our heads just waiting to be mined? Someone told me yesterday that I’m talented.

As always, I couldn’t just take the compliment and say thank you. I was like, it’s only the beginning of my writing career. There is so much that I still want to achieve. There are so many people who are much better writers and who are much further along.

After the experience with my failed business, I have been cautious. Maybe too cautious. The demons are never far away. They are untouchable, but they can fill up a whole room. That’s because we let them.

I have this one event in mind. To invite like-minded people to share ideas and stories. To promote artists, authors, musicians and share good food and conversation. I’ve had it for a while now. I know who I want to invite. I have a venue in mind. I know what look and feel I want. I know every detail, down to the wallpaper. However, it’s collecting cobwebs in my head.

What is holding me back? Fear. Fear, that it’s not going to be successful. Fear of what people will think and say. I write all these great things how you should go after your dreams. Not to let anything hold you back.

Preach, Miss Preacher. One day is one day.

I think penning it down here helps. It helps to face the monster. Of course, we first have to acknowledge that the monster exists.

That one obstacle that cripples you.

  • Fear of rejection
  • Fear of failure
  • Self Doubt
  • Fear of losing money
  • Fear of going outside of our comfort zone

Great things are achieved by failing again and again and yet not giving up.
What is your million dollar idea, sitting inside your head and collecting dust?

Can you afford to waste another minute?

It’s not easy. No one says it will be. What is it costing you? The costs are huge.

  • You are not getting any younger.
  • You will never know if it works until you try
  • If you tried and it didn’t work, you will know and you’ll stop expending mental energy on that idea
  • In the process of failing you will gain valuable knowledge that you can implement in your next plan.

In fact, you are not really failing. You are winning — in experience, business sense, meeting new people, scrapping useless ideas and perfecting your art.

We all have only one life. The clock is ticking. It’s becoming more and more expensive to hold on to that idea. The pressure is mounting. The only way forward is to stand up straight, take a deep breath and take that first step.

‘And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. — Anais Nin

The universe will be cheering from the sidelines because we want you to succeed. We are on your side. All you have to do is show up.

Good luck with your journey.

Success is Directly Proportional to Our Ability to Endure Pain

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No one is immune, even though it may look like that from the outside.

We are all struggling with the same issues. Things that are holding us back from achieving our goals. From advancement, from success. Some of us give up too easily, like me when it became tough running my business. I received a message from an old customer this week saying she bought a dress and a skirt from me a while back and wanted to know where my shop was. There is no shop anymore. I asked myself, what if I had persisted, put my head down and grinded through the tough times. Thankfully, it was not in vain. I learned some valuable lessons.

We are all at different stages of our journey. Sometimes you’re at that stage where nothing makes sense. Where all your efforts don’t even move the needle. You ask yourself, why am I doing this? In those moments, know that someone has walked the road before. There is no such thing as overnight success. It takes years. For a long time, it seems like nothing is happening. The difference between success and failure is getting up day after day, doing the same thing that seemingly is not yielding any results. The breakthrough will come. Some of us give up just inches before we can touch it. No one will say it’s easy or downplay the amount of effort it takes to keep going. Whether it’s with your business, in your studies, or in your relationship or marriage.

The trick is to feel the pain, stay where it feels uncomfortable long enough to see the smallest of change. Your success won’t come out guns blazing. It will be small, minute, visible to only you. A private victory always precedes a public victory. That will give you the courage to move forward. Now when you’ve experienced minimal success, you will be tempted to tell the whole world. Don’t. Keep it to yourself, because not everyone will be happy for you. This may seem difficult to digest, but unfortunately, some people want you to stay where they are, and they want you there with them. Misery loves company.

At the same time, you may realise that you are hanging with the wrong crowd. The party type, who are still living at home and watching Netflix every day. Because you have a desire to achieve more, it makes certain people uncomfortable. You just keep your goal in sight, put your head down and put in the hours. Yes, it won’t be fun writing, reading, studying on a Friday night when everyone is headed to the bar. It won’t be fun to getting up early on Sunday morning to get to the gym. But you know what, if you do this consistently, you will see results. Results don’t lie. They don’t need convincing.

You don’t need to have it all figured out. Some of us in our 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s don’t have it all figured out. When you are 25 it’s normal to not have it all figured out. Don’t rush into a job, marriage, a business because everyone else is doing it. The time may not be right for you. When will it ever be the right time? No-one knows. Don’t be so quick to conform. I have a friend who hisses every time she gets a wedding invitation. Everyone else is getting married except her. I told her that her time has not yet come. A lot of those people will want to jump out of that marriage in 5 or 10 year’s time. It’s not a race. Don’t be a crowd pleaser. If you have to please anyone, you’re in the wrong crowd.

It’s difficult to see the light. It seems like the windshield is all misted up, all the time. Keep going. All you need is to see 20 feet ahead. When you get to the 20 feet mark, you will be able to see another 20 feet ahead. And before you know it, you’ve crossed the finished line. Victory!

This Moment Will Never Again Come, Live It!

Stop what you are doing, stop!

Where are you?
What are you doing?
Who are you with?
How do you feel?
What would you change if you could?

Most of us are just going through the motions. We do what we have to do. We don’t necessarily like it, but we do it. We try not to over think things because there is mostly a disconnect between where we wish we were and where we are.

“Most humans are never fully present in the now because unconsciously they believe that the next moment must be more important than this one. But then you miss your whole life, which is never not now. And that’s a revelation for some people: to realize that your life is only ever now.” Eckhart Tolle

It’s time for some reflection. Schedule a date with yourself. Put it in your calendar. It is time to face some hard truths.

One cannot overcome any problem or obstacle without first acknowledging that there is a problem. Firstly, appreciate what you have and what you have already accomplished. We all have had both small and big wins. Celebrate them.

Without talking too much, just listen to yourself. Listen to your heart. Hear it’s longing. There are goals just outside of your reach. To become fit and healthy. A bad habit you’ve been trying to kick since forever.

Let’s get over being comfortable.

It’s overrated. If you are not continuously growing and learning you are dying just a little each day. Write down your goals. Meditate on them each morning. Tell a few people close to you. Let them hold you accountable.

It’s going to be hard in the beginning, like all beginnings are. They say having started is half the battle won. It’s up to you.

Chomma (a South African slang term meaning friend), it’s all up to you. One of the supermarkets has a promotional ‘Little Garden’ going on at the moment. You get a few tiny pots and seeds to take home, with some instructions.

It’s not rocket science, but in case you’re wondering without planting and watering the seeds, nothing will happen. Have you ever done anything and nothing happened? Highly unlikely. It may not have been a favourable result, but a result there was.

Zero thought multiplied by Zero action equals Zero Outcome.

Start today. The problem is we think we have time. Starting today means that in 30 days, you will be 30 days ahead. Not starting today means that in 30 days, you have lost 30 days.

The race is only with yourself. You are mostly going to disappoint only you. And you think that’s ok. You’ll just down it with some pizza, coke and Netflix. Your spirit is crushed just a little. You’ll try again next time.

And then you realise one day that there is no next time. You are married with kids now. You have a mortgage to pay. Well, you can still try, but it’s going to be a little harder. The odds are stacked higher against you. You’ll have to put in just a little more effort.

And then you ask yourself. Why didn’t I start before?

Chomma, let’s do this.

Stop Living For 5pm On Friday

A simple guide to finding joy and peace in what you get up to do every single day.

For many years I’ve been so guilty of this. Your mood and joy are determined by how far or near you are from Friday 5 pm. At this point less than 24 hours away, so you can understand my mood!

But have you ever thought about it, as soon as it passes, we are furthest away from it yet again. And so the cycle continues.

We all have to work, unless you are part of the lucky few who can live off your father’s inheritance (do call me up). As economic growth slows, the options are limited to what exactly you can or choose to do for that paycheque. Even though it may seem like you have no choice in the matter, you still have to wake up and go to the same job, for the same 8 hours or more to earn your keep.

There are a few ways you can make it a bit more pleasant.

1. Get to know the people you work with

Not just a good morning, but actually going to them, introducing yourself and explain what you do. Listen to their story, you may find that you have similar interests or know people in the same circles. Don’t just add them on Facebook.

2. Wake up early, get to work early

Are you one of those who perpetually sneaks in at 9h05 and mumbles something about traffic? You know those ones. And inevitably at 16h45 you start packing up and are always one of the first to leave. I know someone who keeps his laptop open on his desk, music playing in the background but he is long gone.

3. Exercise first thing in the morning

It is the cheapest, most effective way to start your day feeling great and on top of the world. You get to your desk ready to take on the day. Since we are still at the time of new year’s resolutions and goals, there is no reason why you can’t start today.

It is really the single, most beneficial life change you can make in your life. It will pay dividends for years to come.

4. Don’t open Social Media first thing in the morning

I was going to say no Social Media at work, but I do realise that for some professions you may need to be on there for work purposes. However, check it after lunch. You wouldn’t miss anything.

You don’t want to know that so and so went rock climbing on the weekend, and what did you do? It affects your mood and it’s especially bad for you first thing in the morning.

Its aim is to throw you off balance, to constantly compare yourself with others, and it fills you with self-doubt, envy and feelings of not matching up. You can really do without it. I have for the last 24 months.

5. Slow down as you finish your day and prepare for tomorrow

As you finish your day, it’s good to take stock of what you have accomplished for the day and then take a few minutes to plan your day tomorrow. Write down tasks that you’d like to do and let that stay on your desk so you have it handy first thing in the morning. Of course, it can be digital as well.

6. Take pride in what you do for a living

There is honour in what you get up to do every day. Our parents have done it for generations. Not everyone is cut out to be an entrepreneur. And that’s ok. If you are not entirely satisfied with where you are and what you are doing, now is the time for change.

It could be a subtle mental shift away from where you are, to where you see yourself. Looking out for those opportunities. Getting skilled in that area. Talking to people and building networks would be good too. You want everyone close to you to know that you are working towards your dream job and business. Once it’s out there in the open, you will see opportunities coming back just at the right time.

‘And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.’ — Paulo Coelho

7. Be grateful that you have a job

In some developing countries, someone will be grateful that you let them shine your shoes. You don’t know how lucky you are to have a job (maybe not the best one), but a job nonetheless, where you are certain of a paycheque at the end of the month.

When you are not breaking too much of a sweat, you can still eat dinner with your wife and kids in the evening, there is money to buy the things you want, see the people you want to see, I think it’s a good time to be quiet and remember just how fortunate you are.

8. Time passes so quickly

Things change, people change, situations change. The job you hate so much right now, you may desperately wish you had at a different time. People get retrenched, companies are bought and sold, sometimes all you are is just a number.

I have a friend who told me that they are retrenching people at their work and all she was waiting for was the day that she would be called. Can you imagine the anxiety? Luckily, she found another job before that day came. Some others, sadly, were not so lucky.

Life is short.

Count your blessings.

Be grateful for what you have.

Celebrate the small victories.

Create a positive mindset.

Laugh more.

Be where you are, for we all pass here only once.