Building confidence and self-awareness and loving who you are
While growing up and in high school, there was the popular clique and then there were us. We were the average girls. I was one of them. We would always be just at the edge of all the activity and hype.
The smart and interesting girls had so much fun.
Everyone wanted to know what’s happening in Smartville. They sounded clever and confident and all we could muster were nods and oh really.
Fortunately time is a great equaliser. Fast forward 10 years and you will see who made it. It’s not always the high school sweethearts. Few things trump determination and hard work. Laziness cannot be part of your vocabulary.
It took me a long, long time to figure out that I was just as interesting and smart. That I can actually be quite witty and fun. You don’t have to wait for anyone to give you that validation. I want to encourage all the girls and guys who feel they are not matching up.
Those who feel inferior because your 3rd grade teacher did not think you will amount to much. Sadly, those words may have come from a parent or care giver. They sting and they stay.
Let’s encourage positively affirm our young people. You need to know that you are valued, that you are respected and that you can do anything you set your mind to.
Unfortunately, living in a digital world the enemy is just a click away. We are looking to Social Media for that affirmation by posting a perfectly staged moment and waiting for the likes. If you are confident in who you are, you don’t need any validation. Much less from digital friends who don’t even know your address.
Let’s teach our kids that their sense of worth must come from within, it cannot be obtained through someone or something else, like buying a loaf of bread over the counter. It comes from a place of love, self-awareness and pride in who you are and where you come from.
We as adults have a responsibility to the youngsters in our care, be it our own children or those of family and friends.
Everyone has a place and your place is where you are right now. Tomorrow your place will be different. You will be ready and you will fit right in. The anxiety comes from thinking about it when you are not there yet.
Take every day as it comes and know that if you consistently work towards your goals, you will wake up one day and you will be there. The opportunities are right in front of you, it is what we make of them.
There are things I know now that I wish I knew earlier, but I realise that I may not have been ready. Trust the process. Trust and take the advice of those who have walked the path before you.
Treat everyone you meet with love and kindness, for you know not what battle they are fighting.
Let love lead.