Love Is Not Love. Which Alters When It Alteration Finds said Shakespeare

Relationships are the foundation of a happy and fulfilled life. We can have all the money in the world, but without happy, healthy relationships we are kind of lost. Where, how do you ensure that your relationships are flourishing? When you are so excited, you can’t wait to get back to your loved ones. Marriage is a lot of work. When we say I do, you are in a state of pure bliss that feels like it’s never going to end. Wait till you get back from your honeymoon and you have to pick up wet towels from the bathroom floor and all his clothes are everywhere except in the washing basket.

Then you have your first child and nothing prepares you for the sleepless nights and constant near exhaustion. You are tired all the time and start wondering, how did I get here? It’s not fun anymore. Children eventually grow up and they bring you so much joy and it will all be worth it. Even though your partner makes you angry, hurt your feelings, just think back to the time when you first got together. What was it about him that attracted you in the first place? Sure, there was a lot of sexual chemistry, but that cannot be all. You’ll need a stronger foundation than that when things get rough. It’s easy when things are easy. It’s not so easy when things are hard. When you have a crying, colicky baby in your arms and he comes home from work, where he did not have to put up with the crying, colicky baby and he asks: “what’s for dinner?” You want to throw him with the crying, colicky baby. Anyway, why do you have to put up the crying, colicky baby alone? He is 50% of the reason why you have a crying colicky baby in your arms!

You wonder how your parents made it through. Things must have been easier back then. No, not really, it’s the mindset that was different. Yes, women were more dependent on their husbands back then, for their own and their children’s welfare. Now women earn more, they are more independent and can also wear the pants if they wanted to. But let him wear the pants. It will save you a lot of heartache. Men are wired to be the breadwinner and take care of the family. It’s great that you can contribute, but let him take the lead. We believe we have changed so much, but the fundamentals stay the same. You just have to look past all the noise and hype. It is no easy decision to decide that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. Let it not be an easy decision to call it quits and throw it all away. We women can be very stubborn and want to have the last word. You may win that fight, but at what cost? If he has said or done something you don’t like, that makes you upset, let him know, but leave it at that. Don’t get vindictive and bring up his past mistakes and failures. That’s what will drive him away. You must let go sometimes and trust the process. Trust that things will work out. That you both will get to that happy place again. The getting back takes time. You have to be patient. But like everything else that is worth persuing, it will be worth it.

Once you have children you owe it to them to try again and again and to not give up. Make a decision to stop fighting and work towards peace in your home. In the middle of a heated debate, take a deep breath, tell yourself that it’s not worth it. You’re not throwing in the towel. Just take out the pot and get dinner going. Actions speak louder than words. Watch, and wait and see who will want to cuddle tonight. Can you smell the victory? Girl, it’s all up to you.

$100 For Every Idea That You’ve Failed To Execute

$200 if I come back next week and your status remains unchanged.

They say the wealthiest place on earth is the graveyard. What about the gold mines that are inside our heads just waiting to be mined? Someone told me yesterday that I’m talented.

As always, I couldn’t just take the compliment and say thank you. I was like, it’s only the beginning of my writing career. There is so much that I still want to achieve. There are so many people who are much better writers and who are much further along.

After the experience with my failed business, I have been cautious. Maybe too cautious. The demons are never far away. They are untouchable, but they can fill up a whole room. That’s because we let them.

I have this one event in mind. To invite like-minded people to share ideas and stories. To promote artists, authors, musicians and share good food and conversation. I’ve had it for a while now. I know who I want to invite. I have a venue in mind. I know what look and feel I want. I know every detail, down to the wallpaper. However, it’s collecting cobwebs in my head.

What is holding me back? Fear. Fear, that it’s not going to be successful. Fear of what people will think and say. I write all these great things how you should go after your dreams. Not to let anything hold you back.

Preach, Miss Preacher. One day is one day.

I think penning it down here helps. It helps to face the monster. Of course, we first have to acknowledge that the monster exists.

That one obstacle that cripples you.

  • Fear of rejection
  • Fear of failure
  • Self Doubt
  • Fear of losing money
  • Fear of going outside of our comfort zone

Great things are achieved by failing again and again and yet not giving up.
What is your million dollar idea, sitting inside your head and collecting dust?

Can you afford to waste another minute?

It’s not easy. No one says it will be. What is it costing you? The costs are huge.

  • You are not getting any younger.
  • You will never know if it works until you try
  • If you tried and it didn’t work, you will know and you’ll stop expending mental energy on that idea
  • In the process of failing you will gain valuable knowledge that you can implement in your next plan.

In fact, you are not really failing. You are winning — in experience, business sense, meeting new people, scrapping useless ideas and perfecting your art.

We all have only one life. The clock is ticking. It’s becoming more and more expensive to hold on to that idea. The pressure is mounting. The only way forward is to stand up straight, take a deep breath and take that first step.

‘And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. — Anais Nin

The universe will be cheering from the sidelines because we want you to succeed. We are on your side. All you have to do is show up.

Good luck with your journey.