Practice mindfulness and stay present
When it feels like your life is spinning out of control and someone else (not you) is in the driving seat.
It happens to all of us. All too often. You think to yourself, how did I get here? Again? I said this won’t happen again. I’ve made up my mind that I’m done with this loser lifestyle of drinking, partying, spending money (I don’t have), racking up debt on my credit card.
The weekend is gone and although I entered for the 10 km race, I didn’t make it to the starting line on Saturday morning. It was Heather’s birthday party on Friday night, how could I miss it? She asked me 3 times if I’ll be there. Or maybe it was the free drinks.
It’s funny how life happens and spins out of control without us knowing or having a say. Well, it’s usually too late to say anything.
Enough of the sob stories. Whose life is this? Mine, of course. Well, start acting like someone who’s serious about change.
Let’s do this together.
Here are just a few things that you can do right, the next time.
• Since today is gone, it’s 21h30 where I am, I’ve set my alarm for 05h30. I plan to wake up when my alarm goes off (without hitting the snooze button) and get my ass to the gym.
• Next, I’m planning my schedule for tomorrow. I’ve made notes of everything I would like to get done, with the 2 most important tasks set for the morning.
• My phone will be on flight mode and all notifications will be de-activated as I spend uninterrupted time on my most important project.
• I’ve taken out some of the ingredients that I will need to prepare my lunch that I’ll take to work.
By writing down what needs to be done and actively planning your day, you are more inclined to get at least part or hopefully about 80% done. There will always be interruptions, impromptu meetings, and phone calls that can take up a lot of your time and tend to throw you off course.
If you just try and stick to your goal of doing the next thing right, you will hopefully already be half-way through in case any hell breaks loose.
Try this at home with your partner and kids as well. Things tend to unravel quickly when you have little people running around yelling and screaming as if they own you. They need to be fed, clothed, but most importantly loved.
Keep a level head. If you can, in the midst of the commotion, remember what you told yourself, how you will handle that particular situation with your boss, your co-worker, your 3-year-old, or 30 year old all vying for your attention and wanting to throw you off course.
Life is beautiful. You are right where you need to be. The universe is on your side even though it doesn’t always feel like it. Stay present. Stay calm.
Your situation is unique. You are on the right path. Just breathe.
Don’t wish this time away. Time passes so quickly. In another 6 months or 1 year, this won’t matter anymore.
If you can stay present and learn from everything and everyone on your path, you will be the winner. You will live a rich and fulfilling life.
Just choose to stay present. You can.