When things are not going well we are quick to come up with every excuse and justification for not taking action or doing the right thing.
Most unpleasant situations are our own doing. We know the right thing to do, but take zero action and then we wonder why nothing is happening.
We blame our past, the present and everything in between. It’s time to face some hard truths. Let’s start by asking yourself some tough questions?
1. Are you healthy?
The other day I had a slight headache because I was fasting for the day. I told the person I was with and immediately came out a whole bag of medication. She had a pill for everything. I was very surprised because overall she seemed healthy.
Don’t feel the need to be dependent on anything. Nothing that some exercise and fresh air won’t fix.
2. Healthy Eating
Are you able to go to the shop and choose exactly what you want to eat tonight? Do you have a choice of getting the healthier, slightly more expensive options? All the fruit and vegetables you need?
For some people, it is pap (South African mielie meal porridge) once a day only. If you’ve never had to go to bed hungry, you have nothing to complain about.
3. Healthy Body
Are you able to, if you wanted to, take a brisk walk around the block? Are you able to get out of your car, or get off at the bus stop before yours and walk the last 20mins?
Some people don’t have that luxury. Are you able to if you wanted to? That’s the answer.
4. Healthy Mind
Are you able to look around you and count all your blessings? Your spouse, your children, your co-workers who make you laugh.
If you wanted to, can you switch off all electronics and noise and just sit all by yourself, with your own thoughts without wishing you were somewhere else?
Can you decide to stay in and work or read a book, without having the feeling that you need to be somewhere or that you are missing out on something?
5. Healthy Spending
Are you able to say no to the impulse of buying another pair of shoes or another kitchen appliance you don’t need?
At the click of a button you can buy anything online and if you pay a little extra it can be home before you. Knowing that this service exists, knowing that you have the money to buy whatever you need, but not doing it — that’s a winner.
You will never regret it. Not making that purchase. This strong resolve will show up in all areas of your life. People will wonder how come you’re so lucky, you have everything going for you.
They don’t know that in the quiet moments when it’s just you and you, you make the tough decisions. It takes nerves of steel, but you’ve gotten better. Practice makes perfect.
6. Healthy Relationships
Are you able to walk out on an unhealthy relationship because it’s toxic and it’s affecting every area of your life? Are you saying no to verbal and emotional abuse even though you will return to an empty house tonight and there is no one to split the bills with?
You don’t need to sell your soul just because the lights are on when you get home and the bed is warm.
We’ve all made mistakes. But when you know better, you have to do better.
You owe it to yourself.
Good luck with your journey.